The news of surrogacy might be difficult and stressful for you to share with your parents. We see hundreds of families through it at Ekmi Fertility. Here’s how to do it with confidence.
Why This Conversation Feels Hard
Surrogacy may be an unfamiliar idea to your parents. They might be concerned with how it works and whether it is safe, what the legal issues are or where they will fit into their grandchild’s life. These worries are coming from love, even when the queries feel prickly.
Telling Your Parents about Surrogacy
Prepare beforehand by being clear on your own understanding. Be aware of the fundamentals of your surrogacy experience, and figure out what you feel at ease sharing, and how private the setting will be in which you meet. At Ekmi Fertility, we suggest having facts at the ready and being open to dialogue. This is a discussion, not a lecture.
What to Tell People About Your Surrogacy Plans
Start with your why. Be direct: “We considered other options and I believe this is the best way for us to have a biological child. We are collaborating with Ekmi Fertility and are comfortable with this move.”
Key points to cover:
What led you to surrogacy, medically or circumstantially?
How gestational surrogacy works (the surrogate carries your embryo, but has no relation to the baby)
Legal safeguards that ensure you’re both recognized as a parent at birth
What timeline to expect
What they will do as grandparents
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Handling Different Reactions
Concerns on the surrogate: Ekmi Fertility rigorously examines surrogates to ensure they’re healthy, emotionally ready and truly want to assist families. Tell her that you’ll stay in touch throughout the pregnancy.
Legal concerns: Reproductive lawyers manage all paperwork, ensuring that your parental rights are established before birth. Your legal parents would be legal grandparents, just as they would in traditional conception.
Cultural or religious objections: Listen without becoming defensive. Acknowledge their perspective and then tell them why this is the path you believe in based on your values and circumstances. Sometimes understanding comes with time.
What to do next: Give them time to sit with the information. It can take days or weeks for some parents to recalibrate their expectations. Provide resources and be there when they’re ready to say more.
Moving Forward as a Family
After you let your parents know that you’re using a surrogate, keep them in the loop to whatever degree feels comfortable. You are the one who chooses what to tell and when. We have seen these conversations bring families together. Your parents wish your happiness – they may just need a little education and time to adjust to your decision.
What it actually means: you’re the master of your own destiny.
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Getting Extra Support
Family therapy can help if things turn tense. You can also direct your parents to the resources available at Ekmi Fertility. Occasionally, a doctor weighs in, and it becomes somewhat more real to anxious-to-be grandparents.
Remember, this is your journey. Give everyone a break to ease what can be shared and the need time.
FAQs
When should I tell my parents that I’m employing a surrogate?
Let them know when you feel ready, and informed, about surrogacy. Some families share at once; other wait until they are matched with a surrogate.
What if my parents are not cool with surrogacy?
Give them time and access to educational resources. A lot of the grandparents who were hesitant initially come around when they really understand what you’re doing.
How do I convince my relatively old school parents about surrogacy?
Home in on the basics of gestational surrogacy: The surrogate carries an embryo using your genetics as its blueprint, so she won’t have any blood or biological ties to the baby.
Will surrogacy impact my parents’ relationship with their grandchild?
No. After legal parentage is determined, your parents have the grandparent role of any other pregnancy through traditional means.
Call +91 93197 37070 or email us at info@ekmifertility.com to know more about surrogacy