So many people prepare for the medical side of surrogacy and IVF during months, between protocols and embryo transfers, costs and paperwork. Most hardly prepare for the moment they find themselves facing the woman who will carry their child. And yet, for most intended parents-to-be, that initial meeting with their surrogate ends up being one of the most quietly momentous events of the entire surrogacy process.
Ekmi Fertility has walked hundreds of families through the complexities of IVF and surrogacy. You already know all about the medical part. However, we know that this journey is as much about human relationships – and the relationship between intended parents and their surrogate should be treated in as much consideration as anything that takes place in the clinic.
Before the Meeting: What Ekmi Does Initially
We do not schedule an initial meeting unless we are thoroughly prepared first! What is more, your surrogacy doctor in addition to our coordinators guarantee that:
- The surrogacy mother has been medically screened and psychologically evaluated
- When both parties have checked each other out beforehand
- Legal groundwork for a new surrogacy regime has been laid
- A coordinator is there to be the glue, not a control freak
This isn’t a transaction. This is the inception of a relationship that would consume at least one year of both your lives.
How That First Meeting Really Feels Like
There’s no script for this. Intended parents tend to come in rehearsing what they will say – only to forget all of it as soon as their feet enter the room. That’s okay. From our experience, we learned that the first meetings are most effective when simple.
What tends to happen naturally:
- You tell a little about yourselves – your life and what you want
- She tells you what led her to make this decision – and it’s almost always something you’ll want to tear your heart out of your chest for
- They ask each other questions, and are tender about it
- After a while, the nerves die away somewhere in between
What you’re really after isn’t chemistry like in Hollywood. Its reciprocity, ease and a hushed level of trust. Your fertility specialist and coordinator will help you decipher whether that foundation exists.
What to Keep in Mind Going In
Do:
- Be transparent about how much communication you want during the pregnancy
- Ask her what she needs to feel safe through the process
- Allow conversation to breathe – silence is okay
Don’t:
- Think of it more as having an interview or audition
- Drown the first meeting with medical questions
- If it sounds confusing, feel pressured to decide right then
The matching process doesn’t stop after the first meeting with our guaranteed surrogacy program at Ekmi Fertility. We work with you until the connection feels right and we will know it. This is taken into account with the surrogacy cost and surrogacy packages that we provide – you are never pressured to begin a match simply so we can push tackles forward.
For a Free Consultation, call us at +91 9319737070 or email us at info@ekmifertility.com.
What Comes Next
Your surrogacy expert, when both of you are comfortable, will proceed with medical preparation and legal procedure under the law carried in India. Surrogacy cost in India is still one of the most affordable across all surrogacy options available globally – at Ekmi Fertility, managed network of best surrogacy clinics in India, transparency on costs is not optional. It is where the medical journey becomes a human one, this moment – this first meeting. We think that deserves a certain approach!
FAQs
Q. Is it possible for intended parents to select their surrogate mother at Ekmi Fertility?
Yes. No commitment is required before we share the in-depth profiles or arrange a meeting. Matching is not a one-sided process – both sides need to ensure that the vibe is well-matched.
Q. What do surrogacy laws in India say about the surrogate relationship?
Under the Indian surrogacy laws, altruistic surrogacy is mandatory and surrogate should be a near relative of the intending parents. Our experienced legal team manages compliance so you won’t have to go it alone.
Q. What is the role of surrogacy in relation to IVF centers at Ekmi Fertility?
The embryo is created via IVF with the sperm and egg of the intended parents (or donors) and then implanted into the surrogate’s uterus. Your fertility specialist handles the entire IVF and transfer process from start to finish.
Q. What if the first meeting doesn’t feel right?
Tell us. Which is why we have a 100% out-of-pocket guaranteed surrogacy program. There is too much doubt on either side to go ahead, we would rather use the extra time on matching!
For a Free Consultation, call us at +91 9319737070 or email us at info@ekmifertility.com.